What advice would you give to parents about disciplining their children? Write a short piece of approximately 300 words. Due before next class on Thursday, May 29th.
Link to Suzanne's piece at Writeboard.
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How to Advise the Improper Disciplining
Parents Need to be Educated
Do you believe parents need to be educated when we talk about disciplining? Parents expect their children to have a bright future, so they usually discipline their offspring as hard as possible, especially the traditional education system in China. However, many of them get exactly the opposite result. Therefore, how to advise parents is important and necessary.
Punishment Lower One’s Dignity
“Spare the rod spoil the child” is a common proverb, and it’s also a good excuse for parents to punish their kids. In fact, no matter what kind of punishment they employ, such as verbal, physical, or silence, that would imprint deeply in a child’s mind and eventually lower their dignity. As a result, children learn the mistreated way to solve problem in the future. This punishment is a kind of self-defeating effort.
Influence with Invisible Persuasion
Since parents had grown up in a disciplining environment and already used to that habitual tradition, they would hardly to be changed in just a minute. Desirable it is to change people’s attitude that has always proved to be quite difficult. Nevertheless, if you provide them with practical positive stories, they will gradually be influenced by the useful and reliable methods. For example, a PBS program in TV and books, has many positive education strategies. This program not only shows that children learn things happily and efficiently, but it also enlightens a parent’s mind. This is an invisible and ingenious persuasion.
Compare Different Results
On the other hand, some progressive parents can easily communicate with others, so they are knowledgeable people. They will adopt your ideas if you persuade them by comparing the positive and negative results. After they realize the beneficial results, they will alter their approach soon after.
Although parents expect their children to have bright future, they need to be educated in the right kind of discipline. However, how to use the right advice is important and necessary.
In My Case
My father passed away when I was seven years old and my mother had hardships to bring up seven children. We had to look after ourselves, so I didn’t have any memory of their family training except my mother’s sad face. Whenever I had done something wrong, she stared at me without saying anything. Then I would see her wet eyes. I hated that but that was the rigorous discipline for me.
When Ema, my only child, was born, I didn’t know how to do a child breeding. I raised her affectionately, like any other parents, and she behaved well, like any other children. At the age of six, she made a friend named Lisa who was the same age as Ema and lived across the street. They visited each other’s house and played together for many hours except supper time and after dark. One time Ema brought a souvenir for Lisa and she wanted to play with Lisa. It was dinner time. I told her not to go but she didn’t listen to us and left our house. We yelled her to come back in vain. We locked doors and watched her though the window.
Ema gave the thing to Lisa but couldn’t enter her house because Lisa was eating dinner. She hurried back to our house to find all the doors were locked. She bunged the door many times but we ignored it, then she started crying loudly, trying to get attention from neighbours. My next door’s parent showed their faces by opening their front door but ignored Ema and closed the door. They knew what we were doing. After ten minutes or so, Ema went to see Lisa to get help from her best friend but Lisa’s parent send Ema home again. Completely lost herself in the situation, Ema sat down on the front yard and started snivel. After finishing our supper, I opened the door to tell Ema to eat her dinner.
It was the only time I strongly showed my emotion to discipline Ema and I couldn’t have done without neighbour’s cooperation. Everybody have each way to discipline their children. As long as you have strong affections toward children, they will realize the moral of society when they were told with an unforgettable memory. Since the day of the incident, Ema have never strongly stood against our advices. Over twenty years after that day, she still remembers the moment, just like I still remember my mother’s tears more than a half century ago.
First draft 420 words
You Reap What You Saw
Is it always true what proverb says, “You reap what you saw”? Unfortunately, sometimes, it is not. The process of bringing up a child is always a unique multi-factor experiment in which disciplining is the hardest thing to do. Every case of disciplining needs an individual approach and attention, but parents always should do their duties with love, patience and wisdom.
Love in this case means knowing strong and weak sides of children’s characters in order to discipline them effectively. The best results might be achieved in a friendly family environment where both parents agree about methods of disciplining, or, at least, don’t argue at the presence of their children. Even in conflict situations parental love and support will help children to accept critics and overcome difficulties without emotional traumas. I remember that my always busy husband spent many hours playing with our son and teaching him how to lose a game without being terribly upset.
Patience is extremely necessary quality that parents should demonstrate in educational situations. I found very useful to explain things to my son even in his early childhood; it helped me to convince him much easier. Unfortunately, in my native country, Russia, upbringing and education at schools and at homes go together with the order, shout, and, sometimes, with children’s emotional or physical abuse.I truly enjoy humanitarian methods of disciplining that are used at schools and homes in Canada. Many years passed by, but I still remember with bad feelings my music teacher that hit my hand during the lesson.
Parents, surely, should use both wisdom and life experiences to achieve better results in disciplining. It is easier for parents to choose methods of disciplining after remembering their own mistakes, feelings and behavior in the childhood.For example, after learning from my experience, I didn’t not insist on my son’s excellence in every subjects at school; instead, I encouraged him to concentrate on the subjects that he loved. Because of this, I think, he was definite about his future profession after finishing high school.
Being a successful parent, I am convinced, that love, patience and wisdom are the most effective parental “instruments” in a hard, but rewording process of disciplining children.
380 words , second draft
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